Are You Emotionally Intelligent?

There are many different kinds of intelligence and how they are discovered and put into practice is all upon us. While most of you might be familiar with Intelligence Quotient, there are other types of intelligence that we are yet to put into practice. IQ is our ability to memorize, store and retrieve information from our memory as well as logical reasoning.

EQ, famously researched by author Daniel Golman plays a bigger role both in leadership development and personal growth. The most avid definition of emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize, understand and manage our own emotions or recognize understand and influence other people’s emotions.

The CQ, curiosity intelligence, refers to one’s ability to have a powerful motivation to learn something. Call it curiosity in layman’s language. For example that curiosity that you have to learn French or German language. I have developed CQ lately in coding using python language and it’s coming in good time with my EQ growing.

Let’s deep dive into EQ. We are emotional creatures who often make decisions and respond to stimuli based on our emotions. As a result, our ability to grow our emotional intelligence has an enormous impact on our relationships, how we make decisions and create opportunities. During my time at the African Leadership, I got the opportunity to learn a few fundamentals of EQ and I will try to share them with you.


“Empathy is the capacity to understand or feel what another person is experiencing from within their frame of reference, i.e., the capacity to place oneself in another’s position.”

Empathy is best cultivated and learned through experiences.

2. Self-awareness

Another important factor of EQ is self-awareness. This is the art of understanding yourself, recognizing what stimuli you’re facing and then preparing for how to manage yourself both in a proactive and reactive manner. Although controlling the external factors can be a bit challenging, asking what instead of why can always save the day as,

Dr. Tasha Eurich puts forth:

“Leaders who focus on building both internal and external self-awareness, who seek honest feedback from loving critics, and who ask what instead of why can learn to see themselves more clearly — and reap the many rewards that increased self-knowledge delivers.”

3. Curiosity

Albert Einstein said, “I have no special talents. I am only passionately curious.”

A curious person who’s willing to learn always carries with them a success story be it 5 or 10 years to come. When your curious and your passionate, and you are driven to be your best version, your antennae are up to things you love, to wanting to grow and learn more.

According to the Harvard Business Review, individuals with higher CQ are generally more tolerant of ambiguity. This nuanced, sophisticated, subtle thinking style defines the very essence of complexity.

4. Analytical Mind

The most emotionally intelligent and resolute people are deep-thinkers that analyze and process all new information that comes their way. They continue to analyze old information, habits and ways of doing things to see if they can extract ways to improve. We’re all “analysts” in the sense that we consciously think about all new information that comes our way.

5. Belief

A major component of maintaining emotional self-control is using the power of faith to believe in yourself both in the present and in the future. It’s believing that the people and things in your life are there for a reason, and that everything will ultimately work out for good.

Faith alone will not help you. It takes action, of course. But when you combine faith with powerful values like hard work, perseverance and a positive attitude, you have formed the foundation of a champion. Every great leader and thinker uses faith, either in a practical context, emotionally and certainly spiritually.

Published by Apparently Lazo

Digital Marketing Coach- Nairobi Kenya.

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