Collins (my friend) was arguing with me the other day about how 2020 is similar to 2019. He argued that there is no difference and that only the dates have changed. Well, he had a point but again should we deny ourselves a chance to reinvent our goals and mission in life? That is why it is important to set new year goals and resolutions.
The year 2020, marks the beginning of the 3rd decade in the third millennium. This is the decade where most of us will be turning 30 and some will be getting married. But have you set your resolutions?
Yes, it’s that time of year again. The time of year when we feel as if we have to turn over a new leaf. The time when we misguidedly imagine that the arrival of a new year will magically provide the catalyst, motivation and persistence we need to reinvent ourselves. Resolutions are a great way to stay on course but don’t make the mistake of overdoing them and finding it hard to keep them.
In order to achieve some of the resolutions and goals by December 2020; follow the following simple steps that I tried in 2019 and they worked.
Start small and be specific
Make resolutions that you think you can keep. As I said earlier on, don’t set big goals that will be a challenge to achieve.
If for example, you want to save money, write down a budget and understand how much income you can save. In regards to being specific, just saying you want to “lose weight” or “save money” isn’t setting down concrete goals, they are wishes.
Giving the details of your goals gives them life, and makes them real. You want to lose 15 pounds in 6 months, and you want to save Ksh. 100,000 this year.
Break a big goal into smaller increments
Break your goal down into attainable increments. If you want to lose weight, then set your goal as one pound a week, and you will go to the gym thrice in a week for at least an hour.
If you want to save money, start with saving Ksh 2000/month, so Ksh 500 a week, and build from there. Starting small is not failing, it is easing into sustainable habits that will change how you eat or how you save or how you work.
Pick a start date and set deadlines
Your resolutions don’t have to start on the 1st of 2020. That is the obvious wisdom that 2020 resolutions have to kick off on 1st. In fact, pick a date that you are enthusiastic about and surrounded by positive people.
Setting deadlines is the key to success, especially with big goals. It’s all wishy-washy wishful thinking until you make a plan, then set a deadline for the implementation of that plan.
You can only successfully break a goal down into increments if you set deadlines for each increment and major milestones.
Talk about it
Share your experiences with family and friends. Consider joining a support group to reach your goals, such as a workout class at your gym or an after office hour group of coworkers quitting smoking.
Having someone to share your struggles and successes with makes your journey to a healthier lifestyle that much easier and less intimidating.
Go for it, Accept failure and ask for support
On the big day go for it 100%. Make a commitment and write it down on your notebook, smartphone or computer. You just need one short phrase you can carry in your wallet.
If you do fail and sneak a cigarette, miss to visit the gym or shout at the kids one morning, don’t hate yourself for it. Make a note of the triggers that caused this setback and vow to learn a lesson from them.
Finally, ask for support. Accepting help from those who care about you and will listen strengthens your resilience and ability to manage stress caused by your resolution.
Whatever your plans and goals are for this year, I’d do wish you luck with them but remember, it’s your life and you make your own luck.
Decide what you want to do this year, plan how to get it and go for it. I’ll definitely be cheering you on.